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Don’t nobody wanna see that

So a few grievances I have with my school. The top of the list would be the bathroom situation. They do have a teachers’ bathroom, which is quite a nice upgrade from my past schools. However, this bathroom, like many Chinese bathrooms, has no toilet paper or soap. Grr.

But on top of that there are no lights! There is one window at the end of the room and 8 stalls. So if you close the stall door there is no light! Also of the 8 stalls only 2 have working locks. I have figured this out by accidently opening the stall door to find one of my co workers crouched down inside. And then they wanna talk about it later! No thanks I am working as hard as I can to erase the entire memory.
So the unspoken rule is that you never open a stall door, ever. If they are all closed you assume they are all full and wait for someone to leave the one with the lock. But even with this fool-proof system, yesterday I walk in to the bathroom with all the doors swung open and one of my coworkers doing her business. What’s worse is she was in the ONE stall with a lock! Come on! Don’t nobody wanna see that. And I have heard this same story from other foreign friends. I just don’t get it. Do they have no modesty? Were they in a hurry, too rushed to close the door? Is it a cultural thing and I’m the weird one for closing my eyes and scurrying away? Yea that must be it, my bad.


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